“We leave personal questions out of this,” he smiles., which describes itself as offering “Inclusive, comprehensive, supportive sexuality and relationships info for teens and emerging adults,” spells out the problems with teenage girl-adult man relationships in a 2008 essay called “Why I Deeply Dislike Your Older Boyfriend”: “I feel like he knows — and enjoys — that he has more power than you do right now due to his age or gender, and that rather than seeking to share it, or helping you nurture and own your own power, he wants to keep his power, and take yours from you to have it all for himself.In a study conducted in collaboration with Planned Parenthood in 1997, feminist academic Lynn M.Phillips interviewed “a racially and socially diverse group” of 127 teenage girls in teen-adult relationships, and women who had been in teen-adult relationships in their own teens.This past weekend, J and I were talking about, how, every time we go on a date and have a couple drinks (with the intention of being all romantic and having sexy times) it usually backfires.Our hot plans of getting home with a little buzz and ripping each other's clothes off are ruined by either 1) getting too tipsy and wanting to stay out for more drinks with friends (which is also fun, but not sexy-time-inducing), or 2) come home and either get too sleepy to actually do anything or start getting it on… It started off as a great date night in the making.to be fair, published an essay criticizing “Stimulated” that noted, “Tyga is justifying — and possibly even glorifying — his illegal relationship with an underage girl” and explained, “There’s a reason why your mom doesn’t want you to date a dude who’s seven years older, especially when you’re still in high school: according to science, mental — and sexual — development matures a whole lot through teenage years.” But this approach didn’t last.
When you’re his age, you’ll know that, too, but he also knows you don’t know that yet.” article was published in December 2008, when I was 18.
The teenage girls overwhelmingly said that their adult partners were responsible and trustworthy; but the adult women, looking back, said they felt “manipulated, dominated, or cheated out of their youth.” When You’re On The Autistic Spectrum, Consent Is Complicated What about teenage boys who date adult women?
Certainly many of the same arguments about brain development and power differentials apply, although — with cis couples — the risks of reproductive coercion and pregnancy do not.
But relationships between adult women and teenage boys are a whole lot less common than relationships between adult men and teenage girls — unsurprising, given that in opposite-sex couples across all ages, it’s much more common for a male partner to be older than a female partner (the average is that the man is two years older than the woman for their first marriage).
And while I can think of many examples of teenage girl/adult man celebrity couples, I can only think of a few teenage boy/adult woman celebrity couples, and just one with a male under the age of consent — then-17-year-old Harry Styles dating 32-year-old Caroline Flack, a relationship that led I’d argue that teen media should take care in the way they cover teenage boy/adult woman couples, too.
But considering how much less common these relationships are — and that teenage girls make up significantly more of teen media’s readership —they present less of an issue.