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Interestingly, BDSM may be the way to work through trauma best in an intimate relationship (see my BDSM entry below) Boundaries: For those of you who don't know what boundaries are, "having healthy boundaries means understanding where we need space and where we need scaffolding and communicating those needs to the people around us." (p 67) This is difficult for a lot of people, because we were never taught to pay attention to our boundaries, which are fluid and do change over time.We were often taught to ignore our boundaries by parents and society at large, so finding your true boundaries and being true to them is a serious task for most of us.This should be required reading for anyone who ever plans on dating. For me the takeaways from this chapter were to beware the oxytocin trap, especially during the first 3-4 months.People can keep up a decent facade for about 3-4I was looking for something deeper, maybe more spiritual or psychological, but this book still had some value despite being focused on a the more physical aspects of intimacy.She doesn't go into too much detail on trauma and recovery, but does recommend other resources for this. Trust is the only way that a trauma survivor will be able to work through this with a significant other, but the catch is that trust is very difficult for people with trauma to experience.
Sexual identity: some lesser known sexual identities, that I tend to identify with are Demisexuals and Graysexuals.
In a place like Portland, Oregon, I often feel like I'm wrong and old-fashioned for being monogamous, but it's simply my nature.
BDSM: I was surprised to find that I identified with many of the facets of BDSM, so this is section deserves several paragraphs.
Demisexuals "usually only experience sexual attraction when they feel a strong emotional connection to someone" and Graysexuals "only feel sexual attraction to someone under certain circumstances, which may or may not correlate with their level of emotional intimacy." Stones are those who love sex, but mostly because "their pleasure comes from pleasing a partner." (p.
90)Touch: English speakers appear to have a cold-hearted culture.
In today's world of Insta-dating, I see a lot of people falling into fast relationships that end up in the garbage after a year or so.